"You, with your switching sides, And your walk by lies and your humiliation You, have pointed out my flaws again, As if I don’t already see them. I walk with my head down, Trying to block you out cause I’ll never impress you…." —Taylor Swift, “Mean” First, remember that you can control your response when someone does or says something mean. We may not be able to control much about our life circumstances, but with practice we can control how we respond to those circumstances. The most effective response to meanness is compassion. Where there is meanness, there is often a lot of pain, both in the unkind person and for the person on the receiving end of a mean joke, comment, or email. Take care of your own pain first. Take a breath and ask yourself is what this person saying true? NO it is not TRUE and that is why you are getting offended ,Often we don’t want to admit we are hurt by another person’s meanness; we want to let it go without letting it get to us. If you can do this, more power to you. Though in reality if it is not true it should not bother you as it is not about you , it is all about the person saying this nasty stuff. Be firm. There is a difference between being mean and being firm. The first is inappropriate; the second is necessary. Mean people are used to walking over people; they are not used to someone standing firm. Be unmoved by how they respond. You are in charge of your emotions, do not hand control of yourself over to them.
Finally, fight fire with water by sending loving thoughts to the people who hurt you. This is a technique, I can promise that it will make you feel better. and say things like “May you be happy. May you be healthy and strong. May you be free from suffering” while imagining the person who tried to hurt you. When we send well-wishes to the hurting people who want us to share their pain, we are able to rise above their suffering. We regain our true power <3 Jane Donnelly