It doesn’t matter how evolved, patient, or emotionally mature you may be. People are going to push your buttons.Quite often the best button-pushers are the people closest to you — your spouse, romantic partner, children, and close friends. But other people can push your buttons too — often without event knowing what they are doing. Most of the things that you get upset about aren’t your issues. The driver who cut you off? Their driving is not your issue. All you need to worry about is getting safely to your destination. That lazy co-worker who isn’t doing their share of the work? Not your issue. All you need to do is focus on your own good work. Some tips to help with this: 1. Realize you cannot control other people. They are going to do the stupid, incorrect things they are going to do. You can’t force them to do anything else.The only person you can control is you. You get to decide how much you’re going to let this person’s behavior impact you. Your worrying, obsessing, venting, etc. has zero impact on them – and only hurts you. 2. You have two choices – learn to live with the behavior or change your relationship to the person. 3. Examine your role in the behavior. Did the driver ahead of you cut you off because you just slowed 20 MPH? Did your teenager lie to you because the last time he told you the truth he was grounded?I’m not condoning any of the behaviors – I’m just asking you to look at the only person you can control – you. 4. Just realize it may have absolutely nothing to do with you.We are all the center of our own universes. many times we think people are doing things because of us or to us and they aren’t. The driver may not have even seen you. Your teenager may lie just because he doesn’t want to be embarrassed. 5.Let it go. Think of whoever drives you crazy right now. Get worked up – think of how they lie to you or how they don’t do their share or how selfish they are – whatever it is they are doing that drives you crazy. Assume they will never change. Ever. Can you just let it go? Is it really a minor thing you’ve been focusing on, making it major? , patience, and Can you focus on the good more than the bad? 6. Let them go. Some behavior you just can’t let go of. Sometimes there’s not enough good to offset the bad. The best thing to do may be to let go of the relationship. Why are you staying with someone who causes you so much upset and pain? If you can’t let go of the relationship (say it’s a co-worker), can you let go of thinking so much about them? I bet they aren’t spending so much time thinking about you. The bottom line is that you can’t let the behavior of others steal your joy. But if you do, it’s your choice.Sometimes there are people in our lives who take perverse pleasure in watching us squirm or lose control. It makes them feel better to make us feel bad. These are usually people to let go of in your life if you can. They drain you of energy and joy. Focus on being the best and happiest that you can be – that’s where your energy should go.Stay where the love is and focus on the happiness there . Set the best example you can and spend time and energy on people who lift you higher.