• They only call when they want something: all friendships should be equal – which means that you should receive as much as you put in, it’s all based on reciprocation and mutuality. If you’re putting in more than you’re getting out, you should think twice about what they are asking from you. • The conversation is never equal: do you find that you just spend your whole time focused on them when you’re together? they never want to listen to your problems. • They bring drama into your life: it’s usually the people who spend their time moaning about drama who are the ones causing it. You don’t need that negativity around you. • They put you down or make fun of you infront of others: a definite no-no. Usually people do this because they feel bad about themselves and want to use somebody else as a distraction. Draw a line over any friendships like this immediately. • They talk about their other friends behind their back: if they do this, the chances are, they do it to you too. It’s fine to have a moan occasionally, but anything malicious would strongly indicate that they aren’t as genuine as they’d like you to believe. • You feel bad about yourself when you’ve spent time with them: sometimes it’s difficult to analyse behaviour, but your emotions never lie. Friends should make you feel good, empowered and uplifted. If you leave them feeling like crap then you should probably re-evaluate the benefit you’re getting from the friendship. Some people, unfortunately, just like to bring others down.
People come and go and it is rare that a friend will be by your side for life. It’s hard to go through but it’s just part of growing up ands something we all go through. It can be scary confronting or walking away from somebody who you once considered a friend but your esteem and integrity are much more important than trying to keep somebody happy who doesn’t care about you.When we make space in our lives for new relationships , we find that we attract better friends to love and support us .